Committing to coach yourself on a daily basis will increase your wellness, your quality of life, your ability to handle life’s BIG and small problems, and to create a life of meaning. Checkout my website for the download mentioned: tarasimkins.com/podcast-ep18/
Ep. 17 | How we get from unintentional thinking patterns to intentional thinking patterns using the Self Coaching Model.
“Between stimulus and response there is a space. In that space is our power to choose our response. In our response lies our growth and our freedom.” Viktor Frankel In this episode, we are going to learn about the framework that the self coaching model provides us for our growth and our freedom by creating the space for us to move from stressful thought patterns to empowering thought patterns. I share an awesome example from my own life last week. You won’t want to miss this! XOXO + Press On, Tara P.S. For complete shownotes and the unintentional/intentional thought download pdf, go to tarasimkins.com/blog/
Ep. 16 | Spring Cleaning Part 3 of 3: Can’t shake a past regret? Listen + learn why it is so important and HOW TO do it!
Podcast Ep #16: Spring Cleaning Regret + Clearing out the Time and Energy to Believe New Things “The role that I play in my real life matters.” This is why it is the perfect time to clear out our regrets. The seeds that spark our imaginations are a focus of my work these days. Especially after finding myself unable to access my imaginative forces during a five month period at the age of 51. I promised myself that I would continue to nurture the faculty of my imagination and never tell myself again that I was too old, irrelevant, and had made all of the wrong decisions. Instead, I decided to leave all of those thoughts on the shore. They were not the boots that would get me across the water to my next horizon. The other thing that fascinates me about this idea of where we find inspiration and what happens when we follow it is that we become a part of the imaginative cycle. We see someone who has done something we haven’t done, we then allow ourselves to believe it is possible for ourselves, and we take the inspired action necessary to realize that imaginative goal. And then, we find ourselves in the role of serving as inspiration for another. ACIM puts it this way, when you free yourself from your own limitations, you open the door for a thousand other people to walk through it. For Nupita, first it is “an intellectual exercise to believe in the imaginary circumstances.” Because her friend from Kenya had attended Yale drama school, it was possible for Lupita’s “imagination to expand.” Someone that looked like her, sounded like her, who came from the same part of the world as her, had done it. This fascinates me. What strikes me this morning as I am listening to this gorgeous podcast interview is the deeper why of why reconciling and clearing our personal regret and resentments matter. It matters because our country is being presented with the same work right now and if we have not done this work in our personal lives, how can we open the door to do this in our societal lives. Who is going to do this work and be the example of what is possible if not you? This is the perfect Segway into the work we are going to do today … tapping to release regret. Regrets are the harms you feel you have done to yourself or others. These might be decisions you have made that you now look on as decisions that have set you back. These might also be the choices that you have made in your past that you now use against yourself as evidence for feeling undeserving of good things. As Dr. Joe Dispenza says, “If you are living by certain emotions that keep you connected to the past, then you can’t create a new future.” Check out his interview on the Goop Podcast, too. Or if you want to go deeper with Dr. Joe, I will include links in the show notes about his book “Breaking the Habit of Being You.” This book changed my life 3 years ago and explained the emotional fuel part of the equation for me in a way I had not heard it before by making the connection between our emotions and the hormones and chemical states they release in our bodies and how we become addicted to those cortisol and adrenaline states and what it takes to switch over to more sustainable energy of oxytocin. All of that is for another podcast. Back to releasing regret. Make yourself comfortable. Listen to the tapping exercise I walk you through. Until next time, XOXO + Press on, T P.S. If you want to walk through that door with me, April Soul School Classes begin on Tuesday. Register here. Check it out for 3 months. Featured: David White, Finnistere A Course in Miracles Lesson 57: Lesson 31 I am not a victim of the world I see; Lesson 32 I have invented the world I see; Lesson 33 There is another way of looking at the world; Lesson 34 I could see peace instead of this; Lesson 35 My mind is part of God’s. I am very holy. Goop Podcast: Gwyneth x Lupita Nyong’o on Giving Yourself Permission to Learn Good Podcast: How to Become Your Future Self with Joe Dispenza The Tapping Solution, Nick and Jessica Ortner Brad Yates, Tapping to Clear Regret The Life Coach School podcast, Ep #259 Abundance Assets: The Three Most Important Assets in Our Lives: Our Brains, Our Time, Our Money. Soul School, tarasimkins.com
This week on the podcast, we have a treat for you! I like to think of it as a little Spring cleaning for the mind and soul. I am going to walk you through a quick tapping meditation specifically designed to help you release a past resentment. What??? Yep. We dive straight into the work. No background or build-up. (Listen to last week’s podcast for the 411 on tapping and how it is one of my favorite tools to help us release old thought and emotional patterns so that we may move on to creating new possibilities in our lives.) When you are finished, you are going to feel a shift in your head, your heart, your body, and your soul. A shift that gives you a taste of freedom from your story about what has been done to you or what you may have done to someone else. A shift that will release the mental and emotional energy you currently have focused on keeping someone “on the hook,” even if that someone is you. You know what I am talking about ~ that imaginary hook that you think you need to hold out for someone. The one you need to teach them a lesson. Or yourself a lesson. I can hear you now. You have a question. Come on. It’s a great question, and one of my beautiful Pilgrim Soul students asked me about it just this week, Well, if I let go of my resentment, won’t I be letting him off the hook. Why, yes. Yes, you will, my dear friend. Come on. Don’t you have more important things to do with your time? Isn’t there something you want to use that time to learn? Isn’t there some person, including yourself, you could use that time to love? Well, what are you waiting for? You are welcome! XOXO + Press on, T ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ Featured: ~ Jessica and Nick Ortner, The Tapping Solution. ~ Brad Yates ~ Hafiz poem: The small man Builds cages for everyone He Knows. While the sage, Who has to duck his head When the moon is low, Keeps dropping keys all night long For the Beautiful Rowdy Prisoners. Find out more about Soul School Classes at tarasimkins.com/workwithme/
When you find something that works, you want to give it to the world.
What you’ll learn in this episode: ~ How to know what to fight for in your life ~ even if you are exhausted from and frustrated by the fight. (Hint: it’s the title of my podcast theme song.) ~ How to know what to let go of in your life. (Hint: it’s the story you have created about what makes your situation impossible.) ~ One of my favorite tools for cleaning out past resentments & regrets, experiencing relief, and imagining the possibilities. What I am offering to you today, is something that has worked for me and the hundreds of women I have coached over the last 5 years. I know it can work for you, too. If you “just want peace” in your life, and if you learn and apply this tool, you will absolutely create more peace in your life. But it will cost you something. It will cost you your insistence that somehow things should have been different, it will cost your holding onto the “principle of the matter,” it will cost you letting go of your resentment, and it will cost you saying good-bye to regret. So, if you are willing to let go of these, or even if you aren’t sure that you are willing, but you are curious to see what I have to say, to learn what is worth fighting for, I want you to take out a pen and paper, and invest the few minutes of your time it will take to learn this tool right now and to begin to apply it in your life. Until next time, thank you for your commitment and dedication to increasing your own mental, emotional, and spiritual health, and thank you for joining our group of Pilgrim Souls who are out in the world making it a place of greater peace, ease, and enjoyment. XOXO + Press on, Tara
For full transcript: http://tarasimkins.com/podcast-ep14/
~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ Featured: ~ Jessica and Nick Ortner, The Tapping Solution. ~ Brad Yates, tapwithbrad.com ~ Music by Turner Simkins and Joe Stevenson, Possibilities performed by Darius Rucker as a collaboration between GoPro for a Cause and St. Jude Children’s Research Hospital. www.pressonfund.org ~ Pilgrim Soul Classes: www.tarasimkins.com/workwithme/
Ep. 13 | The 1st Empathic Skill: Getting Grounded Welcoming Our Free Flowing Fear and Sadness to Focus and Ground Us
In this episode, we’ll explore the importance of being fully present and in the moment as the antidote to our hectic and busy lives. I’ll teach you Karla McLaren’s 1st empathic skill in building your Empathic life raft. This is a refreshing way to relax and release the natural tension that builds up in our bodies over the course of a day. We have our free flowing emotional states of fear and sadness to thank for this ability.
Join me for the intro on the benefits of this practice and return to this episode starting at minute 17 to access the guided meditation for developing this skill.
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May you be blessed by the gift of you today.
XOXO + Press On, Tara
Because diving into the river of our emotional intelligence is uncharted territory for many of us, we must first learn to build a life raft with 5 powerful Empathic Skills to help us navigate these waters successfully: Getting Grounded, Defining Our Boundaries, Burning Contracts, Conscious Complaining, and Rejuvenating Ourselves.
Join us for part one as we learn these necessary Empathic Skills developed by Karla McLaren, my go to teacher in this area from her book The Language of Emotions, and then jump right into Ep 14 to experience the gifts and power these skills provide via guided practices that you will want to bookmark and listen to again and again.⚡️
This episode is the first in a series on the transformative power of cultivating our emotional intelligence. So much of what I learn and teach is centered around being PRESENT in our lives, and that means ALL of our lives, including our emotional lives, the messy and the pretty. Listen as I share my personal pivot from believing my emotions to be a source of weakness to discovering their strength as a source of energy and information. Walk with me through my latest real life parenting experience with three teenage boys, an innocent tease that went South, and how the application of emotional intelligence skills could have saved a high school golf match! Laugh with me in contrasting how my husband spent his day. 🙃😜 Know I wouldn't change a thing as sharing this work with my kids and each of you is the privilege of my life. Thanks for tuning in. To work with me on a deeper level, go to www.tarasimkins.com and check out "Work with Me." XOXO + Press On, T
Lots of people depend upon us every day, but no one, I mean no one, is depending upon us more than the future version of ourselves. In this podcast, we will tap into the truth of this. Go to http://tarasimkins.com/podcast-ep10/ for show notes and to learn more about how YOU may join the Year of You revolution. Thank you for listening. You inspire me. XOXO + Press On, T
In this episode, I share with you the first step in our Year of You Workshop process: beginning with a deep sense of appreciation for the woman and man who got you here, so that we may understand that is the same person who will get you where you want to go 90 days or 1 year from now. She and he are also the same person who is waiting with open arms to meet you half way and celebrate your arrival in the future that awaits on the horizon of your imagination. Future Year Of You Dates and other information about participating in upcoming workshops are at tarasimkins.com